tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-56516909976450634992024-03-14T08:58:00.664-07:00Wit's EndRichard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-37312635830830319122018-07-02T09:57:00.003-07:002018-07-02T13:37:11.971-07:00Privilege<div class="" data-block="true" data-editor="fcam8" data-offset-key="7mr2c-0-0" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; white-space: pre-wrap;">
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<span data-offset-key="e58cg-0-0" style="font-family: inherit;">I've been pondering what people mean by "privilege" in the context of current affairs (civil rights, freedoms and responsibilities). And I've been pondering whether I fall into the category of "privileged," because self-examination is as important in personal growth as it is in the fight against testicular cancer. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">My conclusion, so far, is that, it MUST be a privileged person who doesn't vote, and avoids educating themselves about politics, and doesn't fight with their vote for civil rights. It is an unavoidable conclusion that a privileged person must be a person who does not belong to an oppressed group of people. It must be a person who does not struggle financially everyday. It must be a person who isn’t black. It must be a person who isn’t gay. It must be a person who isn’t “of color” of any sort. It must be a person who is not female.It must be a person who never struggled with gender or sexual identity issues. It must not be children taken from their parents. It must be a person who’s civil rights are not in danger. It must not be a person who flees from violence and oppression from their own people and government. It must be a person who never experienced the fear of police brutality or profiling.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In short, people who don't vote, and avoid educating themselves about politics, and don't fight for civil rights, the people who tell us all to “play nice”, the people who are tired of Facebook posts like these, the people who think us being engaged in politics is “annoying” - they must be highly privileged. It is the only logical conclusion. They not only don’t want to fight, but have no need to fight, because their life, their safety, their livelihood, their freedom, their PRIVILEGE, is not at stake. They claim to not know about politics - but they lack motivation to educate themselves because they are not affected - they are *privileged.*</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">There is a short list of labels for people that fit this highly privileged group of folks - but I’ll let the reader do that math.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The rest of us, A.K.A. the minority groups, are fighting for our lives - literally. We fight for our safety. We fight for our relationships, our culture, our art. We fight for living wages and fair workplace environments. We fight for our right to unionize. We fight for our freedom, for some semblance of privilege. We fight for our dignity and respect.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are many minority voices that are oppressed - and many reasons for that oppression - not wanting to be "out" at work for fear of losing a job or being harassed or bullied, the protection of people within our care, or perhaps fear of having our civil liberties ripped from us. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">But THAT is exactly why we, the minority groups, have to be educated about politics, that is why we share strong opinions, that is why we are emphatic about elections and voting. I recognize that it is, ironically, a place of privilege that I live and work in a safe place where I can be myself. But there is all that distance traveled between work and home where I am, in fact, at risk of oppression - at the bakery, at the grocery store, at the bank, at a restaurant, in an alley or on the street. We can’t afford to be nice about it - because our oppressors aren’t nice. They are bigots and murderers and bullies, and xenophobes, and homophobes, and racists, and misogynists, and transphobic, and sexists, yes, they are politicians.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">If we, the minority groups, don't vote, and don’t participate in politics, if we don't fight for civil rights, WE LOSE. If you don’t know what THEY are doing to us, WE LOSE. There are real lives at stake here - and very real civil liberties at stake. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are many of you who say our tool, our secret weapon, is our VOTE. Although important, that is only partially true. Our real ace-in-the-hole is YOU - our friends, our family, our coworkers, our ALLIES. We are a minority, which means our votes can be oppressed by a sheer function of numbers. But our ALLIES can shore up those numbers, make our votes count. We need you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Educate yourself. Read up on the candidates, ask your affected friends and families, ask an immigrant, ask a member of a minority group - ask how they are affected, ask how their loved ones are affected. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Please help us overcome our minority disadvantage - get out and vote this November. Vote at the local, state and federal levels to protect civil rights - vote for the candidates who will protect civil rights, who will protect minorities, who has compassion and empathy and human decency. VOTE, please, to protect that transgender child in your family tree. Vote to protect your GBF. Vote to protect the immigrant running from violence and oppression, just like many of our own ancestors.</span></div>
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Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-49027474631584722512017-10-11T03:14:00.001-07:002017-10-11T05:23:04.283-07:00Green Theatre?<div><br></div><div><br></div>Theatre, by nature, is creating a set that is its own character on stage, that represents the artistic vision of its creators, and that must be convincing to the audience's eye and aids in the storytelling - but in terms of becoming a "green theatre," you have to admit, it can be wasteful. Think about it - we create temporary scenery on a stage for the entertainment of an audience, tell our story, then rip it all down to make room for the next story.<div><br></div><div>Many materials, like lumber, get pitched to the dumpster because they are too small to get reused, too damaged, or too specific to a show to have a use again.</div><div><br></div><div>While theatres like Trustus try to be more "green," especially because we are on tight budgets, it can be very challenging. </div><div><br></div><div>We make every attempt to reuse materials. One example of this is employing the use of "stock" flats. A flat is a structure that is a theatre wall, masking, painting or other surface in a set. By using a standard size of 4'x8', frequently the flats can be reused in future shows - a way to save costs and prevent waste. </div><div><br></div><div>Often times, when we reuse flats, it's like taking a trip down memory lane. Like in this picture, when a flat from a production of <i>Hand To God</i> meets a flat from a production of <i>Barbecue</i> to make up the set of our upcoming <i>Evil Dead, The Musica</i>l. They will, of course, be repainted for the scene, making them virtually unrecognizable as their originals.<br><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiu9i32NRydJ28a1D6yTbBEHWxVlbNQewqlLdZPRLyIwmTwP3hdKJqYNpf_NNhgZKMpjxN4DoXTd6GoIsaohcwJKCysDWKsiaGsTdxwhvl1o-ETy3s4vValWteJUM7kiJqXRp7Ix2-BqetV/s640/blogger-image--544574430.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiu9i32NRydJ28a1D6yTbBEHWxVlbNQewqlLdZPRLyIwmTwP3hdKJqYNpf_NNhgZKMpjxN4DoXTd6GoIsaohcwJKCysDWKsiaGsTdxwhvl1o-ETy3s4vValWteJUM7kiJqXRp7Ix2-BqetV/s640/blogger-image--544574430.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The reuse of items from sets often creates what we call "Easter Eggs" - little, hidden aspects of the show the audience or the cast/crew might see if they're looking hard enough. <span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Originates from the the 1975 movie "The Rocky Horror Picture Show," when the cast had an Easter Egg hunt but most of the eggs went unfound. They can be</span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> seen</span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">throughout the film in various locations (su</span>ch as<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">under</span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> Frank</span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">N. Furter's throne).</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The audience isn't always the intended viewer of these Easter eggs, though. For example, when I was working on the national tour of Andrew Lloyd Webber's musical <i>Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat, </i>the backside of the several flats had these little treats:</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGSEbC4LgMgPbbX0Z1uDdMdtgYuVwBcWzzG1Y46cLeuOwCT7aAzd3V_RtMvZE_MBh-bFCXiUmSDmTxuhrFqtJ0rt6dj9m6P7EkPFP9WW-jLQY9GqxxDmNWIExjlYGk5SrqEs5B3mr9ZBor/s640/blogger-image-1625632773.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGSEbC4LgMgPbbX0Z1uDdMdtgYuVwBcWzzG1Y46cLeuOwCT7aAzd3V_RtMvZE_MBh-bFCXiUmSDmTxuhrFqtJ0rt6dj9m6P7EkPFP9WW-jLQY9GqxxDmNWIExjlYGk5SrqEs5B3mr9ZBor/s640/blogger-image-1625632773.jpg"></a> <div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhH7eDbd7D3w7gLz5IMhQNa-vNeTb_FQJtzoB0T5M2B0Sr3OoVODobLXT-w3NxoBk6PDJf0yN4Qk7QIlT9yTIoTs8IhY-SxiJp-bnWZbUlN47hytsLz9pBwpn8zHpBjsvbPlLLMpfYMvLQW/s640/blogger-image--475811379.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhH7eDbd7D3w7gLz5IMhQNa-vNeTb_FQJtzoB0T5M2B0Sr3OoVODobLXT-w3NxoBk6PDJf0yN4Qk7QIlT9yTIoTs8IhY-SxiJp-bnWZbUlN47hytsLz9pBwpn8zHpBjsvbPlLLMpfYMvLQW/s640/blogger-image--475811379.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">These are cutouts from the original show posters - fun little memory trips visible only to actors and crew.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Sometimes, though, the Easter Eggs are a little more lo-fi:</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoY7NNYvvd1IElIO4SlysrBuOeosEOVWilVCvuBBXetz6dMHiN9LEqbhMfq_3DPFO2ipuCeMue0f30-haCAZyJSbxSNgH5wPv4kmug429orTxShyphenhyphenGCi3spT5OPorIWR-2birApxIeXyIRh/s640/blogger-image-2034194971.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoY7NNYvvd1IElIO4SlysrBuOeosEOVWilVCvuBBXetz6dMHiN9LEqbhMfq_3DPFO2ipuCeMue0f30-haCAZyJSbxSNgH5wPv4kmug429orTxShyphenhyphenGCi3spT5OPorIWR-2birApxIeXyIRh/s640/blogger-image-2034194971.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">(SIDE NOTE on Easter Eggs: they're not always visual: take the musical, <i>Hamilton</i>, for example. <span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Some noteworthy easter eggs include “The Ten Duel Commandments,” which is a nod to Notorious B.I.G. with his song “The Ten Crack Commandments.” “Helpless” has a subtle similarity to Beyoncé’s “Countdown,” with Eliza evoking the pop diva’s vocal style and riffs. </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Then there’s “Meet Me Inside,” which has notes of DMX’s “Party Up (In Here).")</span></div><br></div></div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The point is, there's more to theatre than meets the eye, and recycling materials can be fun, too! We may never be truly "green", unless we make the conversion to more eco-friendly systems and practices.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Want some examples? </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">A) Modern LED technology in stage lighting is one example of reducing our environmental impact - our current incandescent lighting at Trustus Theatre still requires a stagehand to be locked in a sub-basement shoveling coal into a furnace and shouting Trump-epitaphs - whereas the LED equivalent would result in huge reductions in electricity from both the lighting and from the cooling bill.</div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">B) Paperless ticketing, the wave of the future, is not yet finessed at Trustus and many other theatres, either - a patron can show their ticket on their mobile device to our house manager and be seated without a physical ticket - but many of our patrons opt for more traditional methods.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">C) Trustus is currently campaigning to raise money for replacing our roof and AC systems - both of which are bleeding money, and heat, out through the cracks. Both date back to the early 80's and were not designed with economy in mind. Never mind that when it rains, we have to strategically place buckets throughout the building. You can help - donate through our website at <a href="http://trustus.org/donate/" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">http://trustus.org/donate/</a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">In conclusion, becoming a "green" theatre is hard work, and costly. But leave it to theatre folks to find the fun in it!</div>Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-45923211149064750592017-10-09T04:32:00.001-07:002017-10-09T04:50:48.254-07:00Building the prison<div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">"</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_X92Eaz5qSS_LOGNgNlwXKscdqCav_FYvRQC_ZzeuP_xRJ1HlQbecDnCictCFxiavNR52i1TJDZF7Vqwls__ixX5XZalyH0_Tl1KTmeCIb7dgaifcOlukfeiRdRO6a4XdlIeHxoNHYQmP/s640/blogger-image--1038358958.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_X92Eaz5qSS_LOGNgNlwXKscdqCav_FYvRQC_ZzeuP_xRJ1HlQbecDnCictCFxiavNR52i1TJDZF7Vqwls__ixX5XZalyH0_Tl1KTmeCIb7dgaifcOlukfeiRdRO6a4XdlIeHxoNHYQmP/s640/blogger-image--1038358958.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">It always amazes me that simplicity in a set can really impress audiences. A clock, a few security cameras, a two-way mirror, and a watercooler- and a cinder block wall - and the audience sees a prison. More accurately, an interrogation room within a prison, but you see my point.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The set is Building The Wall, a future-set play that follows the logical and scary timeline of our current anti-immigration agenda by that moron of a President, Donald Trump. More about the play at Trustus Theatre here: <a href="http://trustus.org/event/building-the-wall/" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">http://trustus.org/event/building-the-wall/</a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">How? That cinder block wall is insulation foam - sheets of it, approximately 3/4" thick by 4'x8' - not gonna keep anyone in that really wants to get out... However, we've got a good record of no escape attempts in <i>this</i> prison...</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXJMa5a875HMWkhGb-NCBXYnEJbqQKhNmUAwDBj9RWLggYWAk0Y1HQ06j9dDoQHL3fJnIBVQd0bNea3GtNrhe7wp7egdsqsVw4uHxC3696XhMGB-4_hLJ2LUHYD6Dg-dJ7o-V8km4S34wH/s640/blogger-image--1490082358.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXJMa5a875HMWkhGb-NCBXYnEJbqQKhNmUAwDBj9RWLggYWAk0Y1HQ06j9dDoQHL3fJnIBVQd0bNea3GtNrhe7wp7egdsqsVw4uHxC3696XhMGB-4_hLJ2LUHYD6Dg-dJ7o-V8km4S34wH/s640/blogger-image--1490082358.jpg"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The technique is to add texture to the smooth foam surface by using a paddle with exposed staples - beating the hell out of the surface, leaving numerous holes to give that cinder block texture. Then, using a hot soldering iron tip, outlining the brick pattern by melting deep trenches that mimic the mortar line. A paint treatment of water and latex paint - spray water first, to allow the paint to penetrate the holes created by the paddling. Then, a second coat to insure the awful green color doesn't bleed through. Tip: use the blank side of the foam, not the printed side.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br></div><br></div>Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-51179378808969417522015-09-21T06:03:00.001-07:002015-09-21T06:17:48.101-07:00Church of Imprisoned Identity.I was reading about Caitlyn Jenner, and I'm one of those empathetic guys. I can empathize with someone who isn't happy with what they see in the mirror; with someone who can't reconcile their personality or identity with their outward visage.<br />
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I think many people are way too hard on the girl, and justify their illogic by saying things like, oh, she did it for the publicity, or she did it to make money... <br />
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It doesn't make sense, not one tit, what people say she did it for, because NO ONE changes their gender for a publicity stunt or a get-rich-quick scheme. Not one soul. Guaranteed.<br />
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When people say such things, it is my belief that they think too shallowly. It may be that they are angry over what they consider a betrayal by a favorite public figure turning out to be something or someone else. It may be that they harbor secret desires to make changes in themselves and resent that someone else actually could do it. It may be that they think rich people don't deserve happiness, don't deserve self-realization, don't deserve privacy in very private matters. All these types of thinking are shallow and shameful.<br />
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WE, the society that elevated Jenner to a celebrity status through our consumption of entertainment - WE owe Jenner an apology. Here's a person who sacrificed their privacy to tell a story, to make public a story that desperately needed to be told. WE consumed that story. WE cannot be unmoved, WE purport to be a compassionate people but WE treat the story like entertainment.<br />
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But it's all very real to Jenner, and people like Jenner all over the world.<br />
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Not everyone has the financial means to do anything about it. Not everyone can get their story told. Not everyone has people to listen to their story. Many people like Jenner have to be the victim in the story, and never get to be the hero.<br />
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Prejudice plays a vicious role in how the public reacts to Jenner. Is there such a word as "transphobia?" As usual, WE (the society) are piranhas about that which is foreign, that which is uncomfortable, that which is different. WE claim a moral stance from behind a mask and call it "religion." I call it the Church of Imprisoned Identities - complete with chains and manacles and torture devices and that incessant chanting.<br />
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Having known only a very few transgender folk in my lifetime personally, I feel under-educated. I know so little about the story they have to tell.<br />
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In one case, the person couldn't do anything about her situation until MUCH later in her life, and suffered much at the hands of employers, friends and family over the transition.<br />
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In another case, I knew a youngster who knew at an early age and found support in family and friends.<br />
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The only other case that I'm aware of personally was of a woman who took very nearly a lifetime to make the transition, due to money issues, lack of support, and outright opposition.<br />
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I do NOT confuse transgender with cross-dressing. I fully recognize there is a distinct and important difference between the two. But I do know of at least one individual who cross-dresses (in secret) only because transition is forever out of reach for his personal situation.<br />
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Under-educated doesn't have to be unenlightened. I can't imagine living my life not as my self. How horribly foreign it must be to be trapped into an existence that is brought about by the expectation of others, that is forced into necessity due to the hate by others. What prison could be worse than the one in our minds, our freedoms stripped by the attitudes and prejudices of others?<br />
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I have been fortunate enough to be free to be who I am at a fairly early age. In high school, I did not dare to be me. Shortly after high school, I can remember denying myself to people who I thought were my friends. In my twenties, I was able to be more honest with myself, and therefore more honest with others. I was lucky. I was just gay. It doesn't cost thousands of dollars to come out (unlike transitional surgeries for transgenders). I can be selectively closeted if necessary, to preserve career, relationships, perceptions.<br />
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Transgender folk have to start whole new lives. There's no hiding it - they either have to give up their existing lives and move elsewhere so their transition is not known; or they have to "come out" in a far more dramatic way in their current lives - a far more visible way, a far more public way.<br />
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I propose that we all go easy on transgenders, because either way, it's a tremendous course they are taking. They need our support, our compassion, our empathy, our sympathy - our love.<br />
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<a href="http://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2015/06/caitlyn-jenner-bruce-cover-annie-leibovitz" target="_blank">See Jenner on the cover of Vanity Fair</a><br />
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(This has been a stream-of-consciousness which I will surely revisit for editing and completeness.)<br />
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<br />Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-39210105779613269022015-07-02T05:04:00.000-07:002015-07-02T05:13:59.140-07:00Magic-Mike-Types.I never saw "Magic Mike." I don't expect to see "Magic Mike XXL."<br />
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There, I said it.<br />
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How can I resist, you ask?<br />
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The guys are hot. The guys in jeans are hot. There is no doubt.<br />
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But, inexplicably, I have no interest in the movie(s). I can't explain it. Please don't ask me to.<br />
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But since you asked, I postulate that it may be the simple reason that I may have seen exactly ALL of the best moments already through trailers and PR photos. Or, it may be that watching a bunch of (straight) women clamor over these very hot guys does little to veil a flimsy plot line. Or, it may be that guys like these don't REALLY exist.<br />
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Who knows? One thing for sure, it's not fair for me to hazard any guesses, because I haven't seen the material.<br />
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What is fair to say, though, is that, while these guys are hot (have I said that yet?), these guys don't satisfy my desire for REAL men. These guys are porn quality - the two-dimensional type hot guys I can see in every porn video who wouldn't give me the time of day in real life.<br />
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I want to know where there are more "Full Monty" type guys in modern entertainment. All we ever see in movies, it seems, are these "Magic Mike" types - the guys who CAN "get the girl" with absolutely no problem. For that matter, they surely can "get the guy," too, if they are so inclined.<br />
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Me? I root for the underdog - the "normal" guy with a few more curves and imperfections that make him REAL. I'd rather spend my ticket money on helping THAT guy feel sexy and desirable. Hell, I <u>AM</u> that guy. I want to feel desirable and sexy, to know that my technique of muscle-concealment is appealing to someone (anyone!).<br />
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However, having said all that, if any of the "Magic Mike" guys showed up at my party and asserted how REAL they are, I might be convinced. Please try.Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-38744629283346238952014-01-15T19:19:00.001-08:002014-01-18T17:40:27.847-08:00Never Forgotten<p dir="ltr">So many good things in life are tenuously anchored and it only takes a good quick current to carry them away. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I always discover this the hard way. </p>
<p dir="ltr">That's me, there, clinging to the branch that has the potential to save my life, but even greater potential to snap and take me with it over the edge of the fierce waterfall. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Today I watched a documentary on people with Bipolar disorder called Of Two Minds. I remember thinking to myself that these people can't be bipolar - they don't have enough cats. </p>
<p dir="ltr">One of the characters in the documentary said she preferred a natural method for controlling her disorder, versus pills. She called it a change in lifestyle. She seemed perfectly normal to me. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Recently I lost a tooth, and I cried over it. Recurring nightmares prior to the occasion sometimes feature scenarios in which all my teeth fall out, possibly fueling the emotional reaction that caught the dentist by surprise. "Oh," she assures me,  "lots of patients cry over teeth that have to be removed." But her initial look of surprise gave it away. No one cries over a tooth. </p>
<p dir="ltr">There are little things we get emotional over, and there are big things. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I recently received an email entitled "Creative Non-Fiction Project: On Life." It absolutely floored me. Decimated me. Made me realize that I had tremendous power over someone I love... And yet I have none. </p>
<p dir="ltr">We all do. There is no one we have more power over than the people we love, while simultaneously having absolutely no power over them. </p>
<p dir="ltr">What's more vicious is the power they have over us. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Two words, just two written words, on any other day might have been said, or taken, in jest. </p>
<p dir="ltr">But on that day, they were savage. Cry-worthy. Devastating. </p>
<p dir="ltr">A wise friend once told me some fantastic advice. "Assume Positive Intent," he said. You see, too often I assume the negative - usually because I don't have enough information and am too non-confrontational to ask. And usually I find out after-the-fact that I was wrong to assume the negative at all. "There's more to the story - and two sides to every story," my wise friend says. </p>
<p dir="ltr">But how much, exactly, can I read-into two words? Spoken words have inflection, expressions, body language, volume, and sometimes spittle, to provide clues of intent, meaning, emotion... </p>
<p dir="ltr">But written word - it must be carefully crafted - and even more carefully read. Written words can take on new life, new meaning, new character, when heard in our head. That voice in our head can be merciless, suspicious, biased, and way off base. That's the power of written words. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I therefore respond to those two words with these carefully crafted two words: "Never Forgotten."</p>
Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-63113298989255580342013-07-06T06:17:00.000-07:002013-07-07T04:56:43.213-07:00Body Motivations - Part II<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibUngqgQZo_zP_R7ItsVVBESVOApvz0PFGx13CCweryfi3C3S2G27B1IO7oAYowT-sDK594LbkjBKlFka9hZEYB0OsRdjh1J-Mo_JgmItwrQYlEbzxr8VYC2nbPQZC-qPe3Vc8Mf2hgicx/s1600/article-2290582-18875047000005DC-11_634x843.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibUngqgQZo_zP_R7ItsVVBESVOApvz0PFGx13CCweryfi3C3S2G27B1IO7oAYowT-sDK594LbkjBKlFka9hZEYB0OsRdjh1J-Mo_JgmItwrQYlEbzxr8VYC2nbPQZC-qPe3Vc8Mf2hgicx/s200/article-2290582-18875047000005DC-11_634x843.jpg" width="150" /></a>A while back I posted a casual entry called <a href="http://witendz.blogspot.com/2012/10/body-motivations.html" target="_blank">Body Motivations</a>, which touched on the right of businesses to advertise to their target audience using male almost-nudes in their campaigns and in-store advertising. Of course, I used that premise as an excuse to post various advertisers ad campaigns as examples, a visually pleasurable tour, to say the least.<br />
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As I grow older and struggle with maintaining personal fitness, I find it necessary to inspire myself through any means available. A good dance song that makes me want to move (exercise), or a good visual stimulation such as a great male nude photo. Such pictures are not <i>just </i>for "gentleman's time," but are good for goal-setting and comparisons.<br />
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In my quest for inspiration, I have run across some more examples of photos that inspire, and I just thought I'd share:<br />
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Yes, that's Mark Wahlberg - one of the few that managed to survive teen-idol status and graduate into someone who is still very handsome and respected in the Arts/Entertainment community. And he still inspires, even today:<br />
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In particular, I am grateful for <a href="http://andrewchristian.com/" target="_blank">Andrew Christian</a>, who is NOT afraid to cater to the gay male as their target audience.</div>
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There's just something about anatomically correct underwear, football, and men that's just, well, um, inspiring. And I say, three cheers for <a href="http://andrewchristian.com/" target="_blank">Andrew Christian</a>, because they have inspired millions, in print media, as well as in streaming/internet content!</div>
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In other parts of the world, it would appear that people are far less uptight about showing body. The Leopold Museum, housed in the Museumsquartier in Vienna, Austria, home to one of the largest collections of modern Austrian art, featuring artists such as Egon Schiele, Gustav Klimt, Oskar Kokoschka and Richard Gerstl, had an exhibition (if you'll pardon the pun) of "Naked Men" by Ilse Haider in 2012. The posters they used to advertise the show caused controversy, causing a requirement of a "red stripe" to conceal the man bits.<br />
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Sometimes it really does seem that America is awfully uptight, especially when we can see naked Hindus in public events:<br />
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Except I'm wrong. <a href="http://chicagoist.com/2013/06/10/photos_world_naked_bike_ride_chicag.php#photo-1" target="_blank">THIS happened in Chicago</a>:</div>
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<br />Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-59700623922110047552013-07-04T03:29:00.002-07:002013-07-04T08:11:04.000-07:00Perspective Changes Everything<h1 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 3.2rem; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.125; margin: 15px 0px 11px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">
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Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-62330502214841003722013-06-26T07:47:00.001-07:002013-06-26T12:50:19.420-07:00Victory!<br />
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Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-5129880909111884332013-06-25T16:48:00.000-07:002013-06-25T16:50:15.271-07:00Gov. Nikki Haley Issues Budget Vetoes <h4>
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">The Governor's veto #18 cuts all operating funds - $417,750 - for the S.C. Arts Commission, eliminating their ability to function/administer any programs and services, including grants. She also vetoed the $25,000 in one-time funds for a plan a Cultural Districts Designation Program in her veto #56. <b><u>More details to come but now is the time to urge your House and Senate members to vote to OVERRIDE VETO # 18 AND #56.</u></b> The House is scheduled to take action Wednesday at 1PM and the Senate at 11AM on Thursday. <a href="https://www.facebook.com/scartsalliance" target="_blank">Please act now!</a></span></h4>
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(I'm listening to your answer, but I don't think you are listening to the question.)<br />
Do you KNOW any transgendered people?<br />
(What's the difference, you ask, between my two questions?)<br />
Let me phrase it this way: Do you openly and genuinely associate on a personal basis with a Transgendered person?<br />
(I do.)<br />
I have more-than-one family member who is transgendered.<br />
(I'm trying to protect their anonymity by being vague about their identity.)<br />
I have several acquaintances who are transgendered.<br />
In all cases, my associations with these people increased my awareness and compassion for the issues they experienced and are still experiencing.<br />
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A friend of mine posted this on Facebook, and since he posted it publicly, I shall quote him fairly and in its entirety (the link he refers to is immediately following):<br />
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"<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">I'm all for equal rights for everyone, but this perplexes me. Not being insensitive, but I find it hard to believe that a six-year old has the sophistication of thought to culturally identify as transgendered. Would it not be kinder in the long run to tell the child "No, you're a boy. You have these body parts, and that means you use the boy's bathroom" than to foist this level of publicity and attention (some of it sure to be negative) on a first-grader?</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">This calls several levels of ethical consideration into debate...when does allowing your child to "be who he/she is" actually cause more damage than forcing the child to conform to societal norms? Children are not allowed to drink, drive cars, enter into contracts, engage in sexual behavior, or any number of other things that adults do because they (children) do not possess the knowledge or emotional maturity to make informed decisions. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">This particular case also begs the question of whether the other children in the school are being treated fairly. Does exposing them to the concept of transgenderism at such an early age force them to process issues which they are not yet culturally or psychologically prepared to fully comprehend?</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">Ultimately, I hope that Coy grows up to be a happy, well-adjusted adult, living whatever lifestyle he/she chooses. I also hope becoming an iconic figure as a first-grader doesn't lead to pressures that make that more difficult." </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #edeff4; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;">"obviously the child *IS* sophisticated enough to express it, and therefore does deserve to have attention paid to the issue. No one should have their identity forced upon them AT ANY AGE. Three cheers to the child's parents who were actually listening to their child! </span><span style="background-color: #edeff4; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;">(If she can think it or feel it, it's real enough to be an issue)"</span><br />
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Too often we think, as evidenced by my friend's post, that children are not aware of their identity. That they need development and maturity to know who they are. That they are too young to understand. But identity starts forming at birth. It begins with family and environment. It succumbs to society and marketing within days, beginning with how the parents view their child (as a boy, as a girl, as a race, as a culture), because, you see, the parents decide how to dress the child, how the child will told to believe, who they will associate with, what toys they will play with, etc. So the parents decisions are shaping the identity of the child - without input from the child.<br />
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So the child emerges into self-awareness with much of his or her identity predetermined by how their parents perceived them - and now has to overcome any dissonant components, sometimes with great difficulty. A parent doesn't have anything to go on, at first, EXCEPT genitalia. So being a "boy," or being a "girl," can ONLY begin with what genitalia the child has initially. And upon this the parents start forming the child.<br />
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Identity is <b style="font-style: italic; text-decoration: underline;">everything</b> to a person. Dig deep into your own psyche and try to tell me that isn't true. When I think of WHO I am, my first thought is that I am a man - but I am not a penis (nor the color blue or a tonka truck or a cigar or a mustache). I am gay - but I am not sex (or top or bottom). I am emotional - but I am not any specific emotion. I am a member of a family, a member of a community, a member of a minority group, a citizen of a city, a citizen of a state, a citizen of a country. I could go on and on about all the things I am - but the point is, my identity is not tied to the visible, but instead, to the invisible. I am feelings, I am thoughts, I am self-aware... etc. etc. etc.<br />
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And yet, so often, I hear gay people say things like, "I knew I was different (at a young age), I just wasn't sure what it was." My transgendered friends say that they "knew" when they were very young (this child's age), but didn't have definitions or specifics of what it is that they "knew." The theme keeps emerging in coming-out-story after coming-out-story after coming-out-story. Not just gay people, but bisexual people and transgendered people, too. I would like to offer the notion that the reason why they "don't know what it was" is because parents, and society, don't give them all the information, thinking that we have to shield them from such things.<br />
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I like this article because it means the parents were <i>listening</i>. They were listening when the first ludicrous idea that their boy might identify as a girl manifested in whatever way. They were listening again when the idea persisted. And maybe it took lots of listening, but the parents decided to listen, to give their child audience, to entertain the idea that they child might have a better understanding of her identity than the parents did. And the parents provided <i>information </i>so that the child could <b style="font-style: italic;">know </b>what that something <u>was</u>. They didn't prolong or put-off a conversation with this child - and possibly saved this child years of emotional agony, years of identity-crisis!<br />
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I'm not a parent. I'm not transgendered. I can't pretend to fully understand either. I don't think there's any specific age at which it is a perfect time to discuss identity issues, but I would say there are cues and signs at every age. Cues as to whether there is an issue, signs that the issue needs discussion.<br />
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But I know that I sure would have liked parents who listened, not just to what I was saying, but to what I wasn't saying, when I was young. I, too, "knew" when I was very young, but had no outlet to explore it - no one to talk to, no one who was <i>listening</i>.<br />
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The result? I spent <i>years </i>pretending to be what I thought everyone else wanted me to be - instead of who I was. My environment as a child presented me with what my parents, their social circle and my school considered "normal," but I knew I was different. With lack of information, it became this guilt, this sense of not-belonging, this sense of being different, this sense of being strange, this sense of being weird... and I was just gay - not dealing with the super-complicated transgender identity-crisis that this young child appears to be confronted with.</div>
Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-51467081135624880642013-06-25T05:51:00.000-07:002013-06-25T05:54:50.606-07:00In which I hire a staff of gay waiters to wait upon me "hand-and-foot."In a preemptive strike, I'm going to publicly admit that I have used the words "gay," "homosexual," and maybe even "faggot" in my lifetime. Also, I have even considered hiring an all gay staff of waiters to serve me food and decorate my house. I'm going to admit all this now, because I'm fully aware that someday some lawyer may ask me some questions relating to my use of those words and my contract with the Food Network may come under scrutiny. Oh, and also, some television news networks may become interested in reporting on it.<br />
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Ironically, Paula Deen should have followed my lead - because if you say you're sorry BEFORE you are caught for something, Mrs Deen, then people are more forgiving for it.<br />
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The way you are playing this out, Mrs. Deen, it sounds like you are apologizing only because you got caught.<br />
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Because it sure sounds as if you never took any real, tangible steps to create a pleasant working environment for those beneath you.<br />
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In other words, your apology rings shallow, Mrs. Deen.<br />
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My apology, on the other hand, is sincere. I have used all three words ("gay," "homosexual," and maybe even "faggot") to describe myself. Occasionally, I even call my friends "gay" or "homosexual." But please don't take it out-of-context and use it against me. I actually AM gay, I actually am homosexual, and when I first struggled with being gay, I may have called myself a faggot or two. Many of my friends are, in fact, "gay" or "homosexual." I don't refer to them as "faggot," because I know the difference. And what gay man wouldn't want a staff of gay men in their life?<br />
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But see, words like "gay," "homosexual," and "faggot" often are used to target a minority group in a derogatory fashion, and "I can, myself, determine what offends another person." I am, in fact, aware that some usage of these words are insensitive, so I don't use them in a derogatory fashion. I have even asked other people around me not to use those words in a derogatory fashion. I find the word "faggot," in particular, to be "mean," and I am sensitive to the fact that there are many other derogatory words that are "mean" to my minority group. I make sure people know how I feel about such words, and openly discourage jokes and innuendos that cause harm to my minority group. Furthermore, even though I am not of African-American heritage, I can plainly see that the "N Word" is harmful to a minority group and I don't use it. I have even asked other people around me not to use that word. In fact, I don't believe it is possible to use the "N Word" in any way that would be other-than derogatory, so I fail to see how you could make a statement like "I can't, myself, determine what offends another person," with regard to the use of that word, or with regard to racist jokes.<br />
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You see, Mrs Deen, you just can't simply turn a blind eye to how the people in your organization are being made to feel. If you were truly sensitive to the use of the "N Word" and the attitudes it conveys, you should have created policies and made statements and developed procedures for making your organization a friendly work environment. BEFORE the media attention, and your own Food Network's attention, forced you to. If you were truly sensitive to discrimination to members of minority groups then you would not have a discrimination case against your company in the court system.<br />
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I am a forgiving person, and I believe you have a lesson to be learned here, Mrs. Deen. The lesson is simply this: slap your brother and yourself upside the head (hard) for being insensitive to minority groups, offer proper compensation to the individual or individuals that were discriminated against in your restaurant, and use the publicity to make positive affirming statements about the minority group(s) - instead of taking a defensive, falsely innocent stance for yourself.<br />
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Oh, and, Three Cheers to the Food Network - hip-hip-hooray!Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-45892481796231363542013-06-14T06:10:00.000-07:002013-06-15T09:07:48.600-07:00Annoy Your Facebook Friends, Get Facebook Blocked - a How-To GuideCandy Crush Saga is a time-eating addictive ploy to get my money and piss off my friends.<br />
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A) I spent way too much time playing it.<br />
B) Every cool "Booster" costs Facebook Points or Friends, and sometimes both.<br />
C) Although the first two episodes are free, it's a lot like a drug pusher who gives the first few hits to get you hooked - every episode thereafter requires the player to invite three other Facebook friends to help the player to "get on the train", or to unlock the next episode. Or, alternatively, the Player can buy Facebook Points.<br />
D) Candy Crush Saga posts to your Facebook wall incessantly, unless you restrict its access, and even then, you can't be sure.<br />
E) Your friends will hate your incessant Life Requests, Ticket Requests, and Invitations.<br />
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So, is this all stuff I didn't know? Of course not! But did I play, did I get hooked? Yeah, I did.<br />
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Did you know all this stuff about Candy Crush Saga? Perhaps, and you might still get hooked too.<br />
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Sounds like there should be a CCSA 12-step meeting we should be attending.<br />
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The sheer genius of the game impresses me - because IT WORKS. I bugged my friends, I even almost bought Facebook Credits, and I even looked for Cheats.<br />
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What other Facebook game does this remind me of? Oh yeah, Farmville. Which was never THAT addictive, never as addictive as the Candy Crush Saga game. But it also incessantly posted to Facebook about game progress and would bug your Friends for help in the game.<br />
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Bejeweled Blitz and Zuma Blitz, while addictive, weren't nearly as intrusive on your Friend's Facebook as Candy Crush Saga.<br />
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Candy Crush Saga is directly responsible for the dishes in the sink, the rank cat box and dandelions in the yard. It is why I'm not on my bicycle keeping fit, it is why Sarah Palin is evil, and why Fox News still sucks. I simply can't change the world while playing Candy Crush Saga.<br />
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I have decided to give up Candy Crush Saga, and so far, I am officially On-The-Wagon (3 days!). And yet, I find myself blogging about Candy Crush Saga. Am I a goner, after all?<br />
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I still get requests from others who play, though.Perhaps an Intervention is imminent? No, wait, I need my 30 Day chip first. At least.<br />
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<br />Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-15938131958906276762013-06-13T07:31:00.000-07:002013-06-15T09:06:26.179-07:00RANTRANT: Marketing companies who produce commercials for local or big business but don't appreciate your talent enough to pay their actors: YOU SUCK.Quit advertising for actors willing to do the commercial to "build their resume..." YOU CHEAPEN THEIR ART!.<br />
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And Actors, SHAME ON YOU FOR ACCEPTING THAT! You are worth more than just free... expect more, demand more! Even a modest stipend is better than nothing! Save your charity for community theatre - Actors should get paid in any business setting!<br />
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END RANT.Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-66916539648664115852013-06-10T08:45:00.000-07:002013-06-10T08:46:57.935-07:00Exercises for Each Stage of Cancer RecoveryRecently I was contacted by one Melanie Bowen. She asked if I would " allow guest posts because (she) recently (has) been researching and writing about how staying physically fit can be extremely beneficial to people going through cancer treatments." Melanie's bio states she "is currently a Master's student with a passion that stems from her grandmother's cancer diagnosis. She often highlights the great benefits of alternative nutritional, emotional, and physical treatments on those diagnosed with cancer or other serious illness. In her spare time, you can find Melanie trying new vegan recipes, on her yoga mat, or spending time with her family."<br />
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I thought to myself, "where's the harm in in an article that explores the benefits of exercise for cancer patients?" And so I asked her to send me her submission and I would read it and decide. The article she sent me appears at the bottom of this entry. It became immediately apparent, in fairness, that Melanie wanted to promote her blog for the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance.<br />
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Personally, my only awareness of Mesothelioma was from those commercials I always see on certain networks and in certain hospital waiting rooms claiming that some law firm is standing by waiting to take your call to see if they can make a buck off of your Mesothelioma case. Because, of course, Mesothelioma is the "Asbestos Cancer," and so surely money can be made off the case by suing corporations, businesses and other "responsible entities" (the manufacturer) that exposed you to asbestos in the first place. You know the commercials of which I speak - the ones with the American Flag flying in the background and some anthem-like patriotic music and an actor who got paid to elicit your sympathy and make you feel like that law firm actually cares (The truth of such commercials is that they are a paid advertisement for a referral mill in which they seek a cut from a locally referred lawyer's fees - the claimant would be just as well-served, if not better-served, by contacting a local lawyer directly).<br />
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As it turns out, upon a very-quick-educate-myself-on-Mesothelioma session, Mesothelioma is in fact caused solely by asbestos. Asbestos liability is what's known as "strict liability" - the plaintiff doesn't have to show negligence, or even demonstrate that the manufacturer was aware of the risks. Because the product is inherently dangerous, a diagnosis is practically a guarantee of full compensation to either the patient or the surviving family.<br />
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A whole industry has arisen out of this Mesothelioma thing. Don't get me wrong, Mesothelioma is very serious, and people DIE from it. But a Mesothelioma-industry that has sprung up out of the disease that includes a network of doctors and healthcare professionals who specialize in it, lawyers (of both the legitimate and ambulance-chaser varieties) who specialize in it, insurance companies and processors who specialize in it, awareness/charity organizations that generate cash flow (and thus salaries) off of it, and the media industry that benefits from advertisers in all the aforementioned categories. It's an industry that capitalizes on the misfortune of the victim, and drives healthcare costs up through the milking thereof.<br />
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However, Melanie's blog appears to be oriented more for cancer in general rather than (just) Mesothelioma, and carries an overall positive message that explores things that can be beneficial to cancer patients. Some examples I read included exercise, nutrition and therapy. Still, reader beware: seek a doctor's advice, do your own research, etc., etc., etc., and be aware that the overall purpose of her blog appearing on the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance website is to drive web-traffic to that parent site, though Melanie's personal motivations may be more noble than that. You decide.<br />
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I firmly believe that an physically active lifestyle can be beneficial to anyone, regardless of their health or diagnosis, except when their doctor does not advise physical activity. Mental acuity and spiritual fitness are things no self-respecting doctor would ever advise against. So therefore, I have included what Melanie sent me - Melanie's blog is here: http://www.mesothelioma.com/blog/authors/melanie/<br />
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And thanks, Melanie, for improving my awareness of Mesothelioma.<br />
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important for people to remain physically active to preserve bone strength and
muscle. Heart and lung function can also suffer from a lack of exercise. When
people are ill, it’s often impossible to maintain their normal exercise
routine, but it’s important that a sedentary lifestyle isn’t adopted. When the
symptoms or treatment for cancer leave you unable to pursue your regular
activities, speak to your medical team about ways to work your body to remain as
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exercise can give a feeling of calmness and encouragement, thus reducing the
depression that may accompany illness. Even low impact exercises like light
stretching can increase vitality and make you more flexible. A light exercise
program can improve sleep so that your rested body and mind are ready for the
next day. Simple stretching can help strengthen the body even while receiving
aggressive cancer treatments. The exercises can be done without taking away the
breath. You can even carry on a conversation while improving your physical
fitness. People in the late stages of cancer can relieve the swelling and
discomfort caused by surgery or lymph-edema. For those with the <a href="http://www.mesothelioma.com/mesothelioma/prognosis/">prognosis of
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are many benefits to exercising in the water as opposed to on land. Water has
the unique ability to disperse body heat, which prevents your body from
overheating while exercising. Patients can easily do moderate exercises like
water aerobics as they begin to recover from the treatments received to fight
cancer. The buoyancy of the water supports the body, allowing a greater range
of motion. It is often easier for those who suffer from joint and muscle pain
and stiffness. Water aerobics are very beneficial in the building and regaining
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that strength is regained and overall physical condition is improved. To battle
fatigue, the continuous movement of aerobics will improve energy. With approval
from the medical team, the recovering cancer patient can combat the fatigue, a
common symptom caused by chemotherapy and radiation therapy. Rest alone will
not overcome this fatigue, but an aerobic exercise routine can improve the
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emotional state, and work toward a healthy lifestyle. Ask your medical staff
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the new physical fitness routine at every stage of your disease, treatment, and
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The problem with diets is that food tastes so good, is readily available, and is necessary for survival. So I can't avoid eating - and my problem always was portions, not what I eat. My problem is discipline. Self-control.</div>
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I can make the healthier choice of poultry or fish over red meat. I can choose fruits, nuts and veggies over junk food. I can choose the lower-calorie fast food choice, or not have fast food at all. No problem.</div>
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The problem lies in portioning.</div>
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So when I overeat, I feel fat. Literally. Pressure on my abs/tummy/lungs. I experience acid reflux, because I ate too much. My energy feels depleted. These are physical ways in which I feel fat.</div>
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The one thing I know for sure is, I cannot overcome an overeating problem through diet alone. I didn't lose weight by mere diet - it took exercise, and physical activity.</div>
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When I exercise, it is a natural appetite suppressant, and a natural energy booster. I feel better after a bike ride, or a workout. </div>
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Not to mention, it helps my knee pain, a problem I've had all my life that only is better when I'm active (versus sedentary).<br />
So today, weather allowing, I'm biking to work. Don't try to stop me.</div>
Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-69126520793740296852012-12-16T05:35:00.001-08:002013-06-25T16:53:15.201-07:00A QuandaryIt is sad, sobering, cold-hard fact that there are people in this world who follow blindly this thing called religion.<br />
I recognize that people get through life better with a moral structure, a framework that allows them to follow their <i>straight-and-narrow path</i> to their version of the "there-after." I get that it helps them find peace of mind and puts them in commune with others so they can feel less alone in this world. For this reason, I recognize their need, acknowledge the necessity, and try my hardest to accept it.<br />
But, more aptly put, I think many of them are following a <i>straight-only, narrow-minded path</i> to their "there-after." In the name of their "God," they follow intrinsically elitist thought, thinking themselves better than others because they are can justify themselves with this lemming-logic called religion.<br />
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To provide a specific example, I have a relative, who shared a meme espousing the belief that Marriage is between one man, one woman. She claimed that this message was "God-Approved," and ignored the fact that the meme she shared was the propaganda of a hate group focused on couching hate in religious terms to further their hateful agenda.<br />
I called this relative out on this. She responded with an assertion that she would not apologize for what she believed in and "was not a member of" the hate group and "didn't know it was a hate group," as if that were any excuse. AND, she left the meme posted. No remorse, no apology for having offended her own family member(s), and was defiant in her defense of her belief, stating she had no intention to offend anyone when she posted it.<br />
I told her she had lost respect in my eyes, asked for the removal of the meme, and tried to debug her logic. Eventually, she relented, but only sort of. She removed the meme, but the retraction came with a caveat: she posted this in its stead:<br />
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I cannot call this a victory. I may have prevented the circulation of hate-driven meme, but I did not change a heart. I have no superpowers here, I am a mere mortal, and one that falls directly outside the fence of her elitist thought.<br />
Is it her fault that her "religion" calls for the systematic segregation of those with a broader capacity to love? Is it her fault that her "religion" is based on Old Testament scripture and written works by men lead astray from Jesus' teachings?<br />
Is it her fault that hate permeates this world in the guise of love?<br />
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YES.<br />
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She, and all others who have been taught this way of thinking, should apply critical-thinking skills and the actual teachings of Jesus to examine more carefully the messages in and behind the religion, the memes, the faith, that she wears on her sleeve. She should not accept blindly that which she does not truly understand, she should know the sources and motivations behind the thing(s) she repeats. She should be open to dialogue that challenges her to think, that expands her knowledge, that broadens her world.<br />
And, she should, at the very least, be sensitive to the people in her family that she claims to love - apparently with qualification.<br />
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As for me, I question why I care. Who is she to me, other than a relative of the family? I assert that the true definition of family is those that act like it. Do true family members say things like "I love you, but I don't agree with your lifestyle," as if being gay was MY choice? Do true family members say "I don't think you are equal to me, and therefore I oppose your rights to live your life? Do true family members oppose my right to live a happy, healthy life in which I cause no harm to others?<br />
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People such as these really have no place in my life. And yet, how can I change their hearts if they are not? It is a quandary I must ponder...Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-54018201710137174322012-12-01T03:50:00.001-08:002013-06-25T16:53:42.454-07:00#Caturday<h2>
People will invent any excuse to do as their Cat(s) command.</h2>
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I have been <i>Imperiused</i>, I have no control:</div>
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Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-19126035686585600902012-11-16T04:47:00.003-08:002013-06-25T13:20:03.010-07:00Simple Machines.<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">How can there still be people in my life who claim they love me and care about me and YET still qualify their "love" by saying crap like "I don't agree with your lifestyle," or call being gay a "choice?" WTF?</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">The truth is, any argument or retort I might have to offer these people tends to be a waste because their minds don't ever want to be changed, they're almighty in their assertion that they are right, and I, therefore, must be wrong. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; line-height: 17px;">I suppose I'm just as guilty of that logic. </span></span></h3>
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">Point me, if you will, or if you can, to any credible evidence that proves I ever had any choice in being gay. </span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">And don't quote me any lemming bible - that is NOT evidence. </span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">Because all evidence I have is to the contrary.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">I know many folks who live a falsehood, by hiding their true selves in an unsatisfactory marriage or lonely bachelorhood - wishing, of course, to avoid the "consequences" of being "out." They forget that they are involving innocents in their deceptions - spouses, children, family and friends.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">Had I made that "choice," I'm sure I would have committed suicide many years ago, or at the very least, have been victim to severe depression or other mental disorder.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">My "lifestyle" is NOT about sex, or lust, or debauchery.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">It's about identity, and about having the capacity to love a PERSON, and gender has little to do with it.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">And don't tell me "don't knock it until you try it," because not only have I tried it (relationships with women), but I challenge you to find a vehemently straight person who felt the need to "try it" with a same-gendered partner before they "knew" they were straight. They KNOW they're straight, same as I know I'm gay.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">And I refuse to live a lie, especially not to satiate religious, societal or moral expectations of a misled and misinformed group of people or individual.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">So, I am forced to move beyond such arguments with people who might never be convinced by logic. Instead, I'm forced to examine the importance of my relationships with such people: Just how important is "family?" My assertion is that "family" is defined by people who actually ACT LIKE IT, and most times has absolutely NOTHING to do with blood ties. And in that sense, family is very important to me. </span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">My assertion is that love of a person is unconditional, but the degree in which I need that person involved in my life is directly related to my comfort level with that person. Obviously, if they're willing to try, so am I, and in doing so, I might gently change their minds through example - through them seeing that my relationship has richness, fulfillment, quality - and genuine love. They may be able to see that whatever prejudice or preconceived notion they may have about a gay person is changed by their willingness to care, to be involved, to be open-minded.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">With such open-minded or open-hearted people, it is easy to see a clear path for association, for friendship, for quality relations.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">But just how (and why) do I need a person in my life who is closed in mind and heart? Shall I just dismiss them, count them out, edit them out of my life? Should they be deleted (in modern terms) from my Facebook, my twitter, my newsfeed? Should I recognize that they are unchangeable, immovable, hopeless - in terms of their capacity for unconditional love?</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">One thing I know for sure: I'm NOT editing my life for their personal comfort - NOR should they. Certainly they are entitled to their opinion, and I defend their right to do so, just as surely as I defend my own right. But i don't have to compromise my integrity, my happiness or my identity.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">But I have to ask, if that is their mindset - if their hearts are truly closed, why do they insist on calling me "family?" Are they relying too heavily on a deep-rooted "traditional" definition of the word?</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">If "family" is so important to them, why does it seem to come with conditions (I love you but I don't agree with your lifestyle...), with prerequisites (we don't talk about, or just simply ignore, the "gay" thing)?</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">I'm left with the only logical conclusion - and that is simply that they're leaving a door open for dialogue, whether it be locked, barred, bolted, welded or otherwise - the door is still there, and I should not give up hope. If the door wasn't there, why do they bother? Why not just simply be completely uninvolved? Why include me in their life at all?</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">So with that in consideration, I have to study intent. Perhaps the phrasing, the word choice, is a an accidental offense, one that comes from a lack of familiarity or association with real-live-gay-people. Perhaps they simply do not know they are being offensive.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">So, I'll just continue to be myself. They can continue to be themselves. Perhaps by continued association, we will both learn the intent of the other, and it won't be so bad as it was in my head. There are keys to locks, pry bars for bolts, the inclined plane was invented for exactly this purpose. The gentle wedge shall prevail. </span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">And if it doesn't, time will solve it, eventually - TIME - the simplest machine of them all.</span></span><br />
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Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-47255265769606972542012-10-26T04:02:00.001-07:002012-10-26T04:02:36.716-07:00My brain has gotten lazy when it comes to writing. It's because I've fallen out of the habit. Flowery prose does not come as easily, my cleverness is a slow-wit half-breed, and my storytelling lacks Ooomph.<br />
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The only answer is to practice.<br />
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At night, my imagination runs wild: strange dreams, many of which are too sexy to publish here, prove my creativity is alive and well. Translating that creativity into a viable, entertaining article or story may be a dream in, and of, itself.<br />
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I'm not saying that I've got a Wizard-Of-Oz caliber story to tell, nor does Something-Wicked-This-Way-Comes seem to be in the offing. I know from reading that many career writers spend months, even years, tailoring their stories and perfecting their craft.<br />
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I can't expect to write the Great-American-Kill-Bill in a single night.<br />
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Based on the readership my blog(s) have recruited, I don't yet have the audience necessary to make millions. But I have discovered that the only audience I really need is myself. NOT that I don't want an audience - but applause is for actors and book sales are for those career writers who simply have more time than I do.<br />
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Recently I was told that if I have to say, "That was a joke," then it isn't funny. But I say, if <u><b>I</b></u> laugh, then I'm funny, and to hell with everyone else. Sometimes humor is about letting myself in on the joke.<br />
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If I took the time, I'd frame out my story - start at the beginning, and know where I am ending. Decide how I'm getting there. Work on character development, setup a back-story, imagine a setting, design a hook. Is my process missing anything? Oh yeah: <u><b>ideas</b></u>.<br />
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<br />Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-55619675405943983712012-10-03T06:58:00.001-07:002013-07-06T05:04:56.275-07:00Body Motivations<br />
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I saw a news piece in 2008 on the local news about a man who managed to come very close to obtaining all the necessary signatures to have an Abercrombie & Fitch store in the local mall remove a picture inside the store. He even had started a web site, http://www.movethepicture.com/ to facilitate his efforts.<br />
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One of the things that makes America great is our right to speak out, make free speech, protest or support things in our America. We have a voice, and it can be heard even louder in numbers. This man has his right to his opinion, and I respect that.<br />
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However, personally, I think we should see how many people want to sign a petition to save the picture. It serves no harm, and is not pornographic. I've seen worse at the public beach (or better, as the case may be). <b><i>The photo is inspiring to people who wish to be physically fit.</i></b><br />
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The objectors website is no longer - and A&F continue to strategically place photos such as these in conspicuous view from the leaseline. Thank you A&F for providing Body Motivation to men everywhere!<br />
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Its no secret that men worry about their "image." The less secure ones worry that if pictures like these are all over their refrigerator, some of their guy friends might think they're gay. So finding body motivational images can be a good thing for them, because they can still view motivational photos without worry.<br />
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Of course, us gays, we have no such hangup - we put pictures of fit men on our refrigerators, on the walls of our bathrooms, on our Trapper Keepers...<br />
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So here's hoping these images help those who seek body motivation... however it may come!</div>
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Additional Body Motivation - an openly gay male country music star, Steve Grand: </div>
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<br />Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-76089024381378967062012-09-23T05:33:00.002-07:002012-09-23T05:38:07.193-07:00Mars Needs Gay People.I can't imagine why people would want to create a colony underground on Mars... the surface alone is enough to depress Robin Williams... I think I read only three percent of the planet is "habitable."<br />
Most of it underground.<br />
But I can understand the need to get off THIS planet.<br />
Sometimes I can't even breathe on THIS planet.<br />
I'm not really referring to air quality. I have spied so many aliens, vampires, ghouls and goblins; so many monsters and villians - I know, I know, it takes all kinds to make a world... <br />
Escapism is a favorite hobby of mine, and I was entranced by movies like Total Recall that told of domed communities on the red planet - the stark contrast of the landscape outside the domes to the decadence of the inside of those domes... oh, yeah, such a domed existence is appealing, right? But where would you escape to?<br />
Personally, I am glad for the privatization of space travel, because I believe consumerism will drive progress way better than any government program... but will I, in my lifetime, see it become possible for ME to get off this planet? <br />
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<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/12/antimatter-fusion-spaceships-interstellar-nasa_n_1876760.html" target="_blank">Antimatter Spaceships Could Make Long Flights Before End Of Century, Space Consultants Say</a></h1>
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I keep scheming on ways to get Richard Branson to include me in his colonization plans. Last I checked, sadly, the man doesn't even know I'm alive. Certainly I didn't make his list: <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px;"><a href="http://www.torontosun.com/2012/09/20/richard-branson-wants-to-colonize-mars" target="_blank">"Obviously, you are going to want scientists initially. You're going to want physicians, you're going to want comedians, you're going to want fun people, beautiful people, ugly people - a good cross-section of what happens on Earth - on Mars. People have got to be able to get on together, because it's going to be quite confined."</a> </span> I believe that his accidental omission of gay people is negligent - someone has GOT to help decorate the planet. I guess, perhaps, that I am included in the list, in a round-about way - I am, after all, fun. And gay people would be the solution to the culture dilemma - apparently lacking on Mars.<br />
Branson claims he will see this colonization occur in his lifetime. So, I have sixteen years to introduce myself, ingratiate myself, and make him realize how badly Mars needs gay people. I suppose getting him to fall in love with me is out of the question.<br />
My current strategy is to find the fountain of youth, regress to my teenage years, and make the Catholic priest he selects to go want me as his trusty altar boi.<br />
If that doesn't work, I will resort to Plan 9 - recruit the undead to take over his ship and take me with them.<br />
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Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-58257025249528952342012-09-18T03:17:00.000-07:002012-09-18T03:17:35.920-07:00Self Discovery<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Writing takes practice, whether you are good at it, or not. And writing requires "headspace" - something an introvert like myself craves more than anything. To stay in practice, I'm forcing myself to write, even if it's inane little entries like this, even if their frequency is sporadic at best, even if the topics are frivolous and inconsequential. <br />
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(The photo included here proves that.)<br />
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Introversion is a curse - and a blessing. Curse, because I'd rather bury my face in a book or video game or a quiet corner of the world, or just coding html or other such stuff - but life insists on thrusting me into a job where I must interact with people, forced into situations where public interaction is expected, or times when people just won't let me be introverted. Blessing, because I <u style="font-style: italic;">CAN</u> find that headspace - sit in a quiet room or place in nature for hours without the need for the crutches others seem to need for entertainment, such as television or radio or the like.<br />
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In college Psychology courses, I did many self-assessments, in which I discovered what I already knew: I work best: without supervision; on tasks that require attention to detail; and in very small groups or by myself. I also discovered that speaking to large groups does not bother me, but <i>interacting</i> in large groups does.<br />
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This journey of self discovery uncovered other tidbits that seem contradictory:<br />
I discovered that I needed a small push to overcome initial shyness, and yet I'm a bit of an exhibitionist. I have a tendency to avoid eye-contact in small groups (or one on one) and yet enjoy public speaking to large groups. I don't mind public displays of affection, and yet I find a conflict in public incites a flight mode in me.<br />
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Making new friends is hard for me - exceedingly hard. I'm NEVER the first person to extend my hand for a handshake, NEVER the first to say hello, NEVER the one to make eye-contact. This is exacerbated by any physical attraction to a person. <br />
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And yet, I'm hugger, physically affectionate, a personal space violator. <br />
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One might very well draw the conclusion that I am a cat.<br />
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And when I fall in love, I fall HARD. <br />
<br />Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-52917803858566985192012-09-18T03:08:00.001-07:002012-09-18T04:06:09.805-07:00Alter Egos<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNeXO5q6BuAbT053xhF8yNR4caUeZ45rbBWcnLlYa5gQ_4sr37Nl0qT8hR5-11w0RClmtT8akh7_OkkByr_o_TXPy78Nea847Bw2cosDejxa0ptGPtixxnGIZzyaMZp7bXGyRijDd1RQ9F/s640/blogger-image-251411870.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="202" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNeXO5q6BuAbT053xhF8yNR4caUeZ45rbBWcnLlYa5gQ_4sr37Nl0qT8hR5-11w0RClmtT8akh7_OkkByr_o_TXPy78Nea847Bw2cosDejxa0ptGPtixxnGIZzyaMZp7bXGyRijDd1RQ9F/s400/blogger-image-251411870.jpg" width="400" /></a>So, Facebook has kindly informed me that some dog has just joined Facebook.<br />
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Now mind you, I don't mind dogs, not one bit.<br />
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But why does a dog need a Facebook page?<br />
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And why does Facebook feel the need to inform me?<br />
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Perhaps Roxy Reagan is an alter ego. Perhaps it is a person who feels the need for anonymity, for whatever reason. I know lots of people who maintain alter egos for some very good reasons.<br />
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<b>Exhibit A: </b>A friend works in a public office, who in his real identity engages in leather events, fetish events, and gay events. This friend maintains one Facebook ID for friends he can be himself with, and another Facebook ID that is more "socially acceptable" for his coworkers and the general public to see (Believe me, the "socially acceptable" bit is not my personal commentary - I think it is a travesty that he feels he cannot be himself everywhere and that he feels the need to hide some aspects of who he is).<br />
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<b>Exhibit B:</b> Stage persona: I am acquainted with several friends who have developed characters onstage - drag characters, especially - in which they maintain a Facebook ID that stays in-character at all times. One such person is a public figure in the gay community, meaning (s)he has built a drag career as a <em style="background-color: white; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-style: normal; font-weight: bold; line-height: 16px;">maître d</em><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small; line-height: 16px;">' </span>of the GLBT community. So, not your ordinary late night drag show in a bar or club, but as an event host for a parade, for a fundraiser, for a public protest, for a grand opening, etc.<br />
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<b>Exhibit C: </b>A good friend of mine maintains a Facebook ID that allows for an exploration of crossdressing, without fear that his children will stumble upon a photo of her high-heeling it across an airport to catch a plane (great blog, too, by the way, about life and travel as a crossdresser - <a href="http://kimberlyhuddle.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">check it out</a>! I have great respect for the reasoning behind the decision to maintain the alter ego, but I sure wish parents wouldn't go to such extremes to overprotect their children, or perhaps I should say, they shouldn't <i>have to</i> go to such extremes. I'm sure it's way more complicated than that, but how I wish it didn't have to be!).<br />
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<b>Exhibit D:</b> A friend of mine created a false identity because of a bad situation in which her private life was exploited through a hacking incident. Despite the circumstances, she still wished to maintain contact with her friends, so hence the alter ego.<br />
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<b>Exhibit E:</b> I personally have two Facebook ID's because I demonstrate electronic goods to the public in retail settings, which frequently involves showing customers Facebook on a smart-phone or a computer/internet product - and I have no desire to show strangers my personal life on Facebook. So I have a generic, homogenized Facebook ID that includes photos of me with Justin Bieber and me with customers or clients, rather than the kind of photos they'd find on my personal account, of me drunk or me nearly naked or me in a kilt for Halloween!<br />
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<i>For clarity:</i> But whatever the reasons are for people having an alter ego, I don't judge. I might have unsolicited opinions, but I love my friends unconditionally, and yearn for a life-less-complicated in which they can be comfortable with who they are. In the case of Exhibit A, I am friends with only one of that person's Facebook IDs - the one where I can be <i>myself - </i>he invited me to be friends with both, but I refuse to compromise or censure myself in his newsfeed as if being gay or having sexual encounters was a bad, bad thing. Exhibit B folks, on the other hand, I freely "friend" both personas where invited, because, of course, I support art and personal expression, and feel that I can be myself to both. Exhibit C: I am friends with both alter egos, because I feel he and crossdressers/transgenders should not have to hide who they are and I fully accept and support him in every way. Exhibit D? Hurrah for not letting some hacker ruin your online experience - and if that hacker was an ex, seek a fun way of having your revenge! Exhibit E needs no explanation.<br />
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<b>BUT: </b>I find myself baffled by "Roxy Reagan," and why Facebook would inform me of this oddity. There's a gossip story hidden in that Facebook ID, perhaps? Is this the underdog I'm always hearing about and secretly cheering for? Richard Kiralyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599805166742774061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5651690997645063499.post-83829541005077710302012-09-17T18:38:00.001-07:002012-09-17T18:42:23.749-07:00Some Emails Are Hard To Delete.Andrew Christian emails, for example.<br />
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